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Imagine a situation. You are invited to the wedding of your favourite celebrity. You have decided what to wear, who you will go with but you are stuck with one worry – on the gift you want to give! Won’t they have almost everything? Wouldn’t the stuff they use be very different from what we use? Do they believe in the ‘no gifts please policy or would they make do with just a bouquet and good wishes?
TellyChakkar spoke to some stars who got married last year to find out about the best gifts they received.
Chaitanya Chowdhury (got married to Vaishali on May 7, 2009): We received loads of good gifts and expensive ones from our well wishers. But the most memorable gift I received was a golden kada from my in-laws. I wore it for seven months, but since I was not sure how my viewers would react to it, I stopped wearing it during shooting. However, I wear it when I am not shooting. When it comes to a no-gift-policy, I am open to both viewpoints! I would not mind receiving gifts from people who genuinely offer it as a symbol of their love and affection. At the same time, I would hate getting a gift from someone who is giving it just for the sake of it.
Daljeet Kaur (got married to Shaleen Bhanot in December, 2010): I had received a lot of good wedding gifts so it is really difficult to choose the best. I like ornaments a lot and my mother-in-law gave me a very nice diamond set, which was a surprise gift. In fact, she managed to keep it a secret from my father-in-law and even Shaleen. I was touched by her gesture. She knew I liked surprises and this was hers. That was the best gift I received.
I think it is not about how expensive the gift is, it is the thought behind it. For example, a very thoughtfully given photo frame can also be a fantastic gift. Though I believe in giving gifts, and receiving them too, I do not like it becoming a ritual. I am against giving gifts on occasions or rituals just for the sake of it.
Jas Karan (got married to Ashwini on Dec 25, 2009): The best wedding gift I have received is a lovely painting of Guru Nanak ji. An old friend gave it to me and I was moved by it. Another wedding gift which moved me was from my close friend Pawan. Since I am a Sardar, he went to Nanded (a town in Maharashtra famous for its gurudwara) prayed for us and brought us back the prasad and gave us the receipt of the Puja. There was nothing material about this gift, but it was the thought that mattered. We still have the receipt and will keep it forever. Gifting people is good, but only if someone really feels like giving. It should not be just for the sake of a social obligation.
Vaishali (got married to actor Manav Vij on May 5, 2009): The best and most memorable gift I got was from my mother-in-law. Sadly, we lost her recently. She gave me a lovely kada which I wear throughout the day. Besides having spiritual significance, it also reminds me of her presence every day.
I am not against giving gifts during marriages. I love to buy and give gifts to people during their marriages. And also receive good gifts!
Rahuol Lohani (got married to Meghna on July 1, 2009): The best gift we got was from Meghna’s cousin and brother. They gave us a three-day package in a plush five star hotel in the western suburbs of Mumbai. There was a three-day gap between our marriage and our honeymoon to Bangkok; it was perfect. The way he gave us the gift was very interesting.
One day after our marriage, Meghana’s brother and cousin invited us for a cup of coffee at a five star hotel and then requested us to accompany them to a room where apparently their friend was staying. When we went to the room we were surprised to see it decorated with flowers, a huge cake, and loads of gifts lying around. That is when they disclosed that they had booked the room for us! Meghna and I will always cherish that feeling.
On the no-gift policy, I personally feel if you really want to give someone something, you can donate that money to some charity. I belong to a middle class family and have seen lots of ups and downs. Material gifts can give you temporary joy but if you really want to gift something from your heart, give it to charity. I often get confused while gifting someone because somehow there is this competition about how expensive a gift one gives!
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